-Isms: Views on life in rural America

It began with a yellow piece of paper, taped crookedly on a wall by four jagged pieces of electrical tape. A single word, written in blue block letters, spells out the theme of what many need to remember: BELIEVE.

Three years ago, Jason Sudeikis’s “Ted Lasso” wrangled his way into living rooms and hearts, sharing his kooky, quirky, optimistic, Midwestern wisdom from Richmond Green, in England. The streaming show, featuring the American football coach taking over a British soccer team, premiered during the height of the pandemic. The character originally debuted on NBC, during promotional sports coverage for England’s Premier League.

Maybe the world didn’t need “Ted Lasso.” Then again, maybe the character’s keen insight into human nature is exactly what the world needs.

Here are 11 of the biggest takeaways from the show, lessons worth remembering and living by. If you haven’t watched, possible spoiler alerts are included below.

#11. In the show’s pilot, Ted receives a pack of toy Army men from his son, who lives in Kansas City, home of the world’s best barbecue. Ted gifts a toy solider to Rebecca, AFC Richmond’s team owner, as well as Sam, a Richmond player who hails from Nigeria. The soldier is a reminder that we all have someone who protects us from harm and offers safe refuge.

#10. The “me versus us” principle. Soccer superstar Jamie believes he is the one and only player on the team, but Lasso continually reminds players that they are all important, with different talents. Ted teaches emotional maturity and succeeds over and again.

#9. Yes, it is possible for a man and a woman to experience a platonic relationship. While the on-screen chemistry between Ted and Rebecca is obvious, the two emulate what develops into a solid friendship based on respect and admiration.

#8. Strong, confident women are a force to be reckoned with. They may also be vulnerable, at times. It’s a delicate balance that provides fodder for reinforcing their strength.

#7. Relationships matter. In a world blurred by fake social media happiness, with shades of pettiness, true friendships are rare. It might sound cliché, but find your tribe and support them through thick and thin. These are the relationships that matter most.

#6. Address mental health needs. Stress from work or school or family or whatever situation needs a healthy outlet. Seeking professional health is important for your well-being and people shouldn’t be stigmatized by asking for help.

#5. Bullying will not be tolerated. Doesn’t matter if it’s a school-aged child or an adult doing the bullying, stop it. Treat others with respect. If you see a bullying incident, say something.

#4. Be a goldfish. Ted asks Sam, who losses a pass stolen by Jamie during practice, “What’s the happiest animal on earth?” Sam says he doesn’t know. “A goldfish,” Ted says. “It has a 10-second memory.” Forgive often. Show grace.

#3. Life comes full circle. At the end of a coaching gig or relationship or life cycle, things return to the beginning and continue to widen as the next phase begins. It doesn’t matter if you spend six or 16 years with someone, the infinite motion of the world will cause you to collide again and again.

#2. About success, Ted Lasso tells journalist Trent Crimm, “For me, success is not about the wins and losses. It’s about helping these young fellas be the best versions of themselves on and off the field.” It’s too bad so many measure success by the number of wins instead of the lessons associated with the process.

#1. Believe. Believe in yourself. Believe in your talent. Most importantly, believe in your worth. Always.

Well, Ted, it’s been a good run. I’ll miss your charm, quick wit and understanding nature. Mostly, I’ll miss your sincerity, a trait that seems to be fading away quickly in this world.

AFC Richmond forever.

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